Q. My boyfriend says he did not have full sexual intercourse with one of my friends, but he has had a sexual relationship with her. Should I forgive him? I am finding it hard to continue a friendship or a relationship with my boyfriend right now. Do you think I should forgive him? I don’t think that I could forgive her in a hurry. I feel a lack of trust from both parties. I just want to curl up and die. Please tell me what I should do to get over them both.
Q. I am sorry to hear about your ordeal.
Your friend does not sound like a very nice person and I am sad to tell you this, however, she could not have been a very good friend, therefore you should make a new friend. She really does not sound like a very nice person at all.
As for your boyfriend, he has also broken that trust and it may be very difficult to ever trust him again. Do you love him? Are you willing to forgive him? It sounds like your mind might be in a state of turmoil as two of the people you were close to have completely broken your trust in them. You should perhaps consider finding a new partner, one who won’t let you down and someone who you can rely upon and trust. You do not want to duplicate your past relationship. You need to then build up a mutual trust for each other. Look out for the warning signs, in the early stages of your relationship together. If he does not respect the kind of a person you are, then back away slowly.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
SmileyRose Ramblings by
Frances Rose Agnes Napper (She/Her) 